I couldn’t even really say the word sex out loud until I was 14. Even then it was whispered, or mimed or camouflaged as “banging” or “IT”. Growing up in a semi-conservative African family, sex was one of those things that no one really wanted to acknowledge or talk about.
I remember in grade 4, after we started learning about sex we had a session where a psychologist came in (at least I’m guessing she was one) with a box of smarties and spoke about what sex feels like. She said sex is like sharing yourself with a person and